The original MindMillion book 2005 by Silvia Hartmann - Part 5

Success Farming

Phase 5

Success Farming

For unknowable reasons, people are encouraged to learn from their mistakes and not to crow about their successes, to brush them off as good luck or “oh it was nothing ...”, particularly in the Anglo-Saxon tradition.

However, if you were to farm some creatures, let’s say, and you have a choice of farming success creatures or failure creatures, which one would you need to have running about in your fields and happily sleeping in your stables?

The fact is that you can only breed success from success and not from failure; just as you can breed a horse only from another horse, and not from a crocodile.

If you want a success farm that breeds more and further success, we thereby have to concentrate our resources on success, and not on failure.

Obviously!

Now this may sound simple, and indeed it is, but it flies in the face of all our in depth conditioning since we were born.

I have NEVER been pulled over by the police and been congratulated on my safe and excellent driving. Never, not once in 30 years. But drive a little too fast, just the once, and boom! There they are, like the flies on the proverbial dung heap.

We really need to learn to think differently and focus on what we do well, rather than on what we don’t; we need to learn to count our blessings, to lovingly take care of them, to grow them, so that our blessings may multiply.

Let’s start by re-defining success, and in a modular fashion.

There is no “global failure”, there are always success aspects involved.

For example, a runner may “fail” to win first prize – but he’s actually beaten another 7 people go come second.

What is that? A success, or a failure?

Let’s say it’s a success of splendid proportions.

Let us now ask the question, “How did that happen? What made our runner FASTER than the other 7 he beat on the day?”

We study the tapes and find out that he won because:

• he had more mental focus;
• his stride was smoother;
• he had a burst of speed left at the end.

These are the things which are GOOD and which proved to be very successful.

Believe it or not, if this runner focuses on his GOOD POINTS and builds further on these, by getting even MORE mental focus, making his strides even MORE smooth and having EVEN MORE of a burst of speed at the end, he has every chance to beat everyone eventually.

This is also much, much easier than to try and make him do something he didn’t do or couldn’t do – there are already so many things he does so very well, there’s truly nothing to be gained by focussing on his mistakes at all.

The reason that this is so important is because folk end up throwing out their best babies in the bathwater of perceived failure.

This runner above will noticeably improve if he focuses on EXPANDING ON HIS GOOD POINTS some more.

More importantly, he won’t LOSE OUT in any way.

He doesn’t run the chance to destroy his focus and confidence by trying to deal with mistakes and he isn’t ruining what is already good by doing this.

He can only GET BETTER.

In every endeavour are such seeds of greatness that can be grown.

If you have a website and you get a single visitor, you have NOT FAILED TO ATTRACT MILLIONS but instead, you have SUCCEEDED in attracting a visitor.

HOW did that happen?

Find out how and do it again. Do it better, do it more and now you are starting at the very bottom of a success rise that can’t help but get somewhere.

If you do a mailshot and get just one single response, you have a success to build on. Improve this next time

around.

Study your successes and LEARN FROM THEM.

It is only and ONLY by studying success that we get to attain more of the same.

>> Exercise: My Successes

Now, I want you to go back and re-evaluate what you think are your failures and successes.

I want you to think about businesses you ran or activities you undertook which worked well enough (they got a response, even if it is only a single sale, or one person enquiring, or someone paying you for some thing) and contemplate this from this new vantage point.

Do this for ten things that you THOUGHT were failures (because they failed to live up to your expectations, or because you were still filtering for failure back then!) and for each one, come up with at least one important lesson about success for you personally.

Do it right here, and do it NOW.

This is a very important exercise.

We need to re-train ourselves to FOCUS ON SUCCESS.

Ten Business Events I thought were failures (but actually weren’t):

* It might help to start each sentence in thought with: “I succeeded in ...” (selling a single product, attracting 3 clients, getting a wholesaler, etc).

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Success School

There are many aspects to a human being that don’t understand the contortions of the conscious mind, or the strange and convoluted ideas, beliefs, values and attitudes that are rampant in our societies.

• We need to re-teach our bodies, our minds, our unconscious or subconscious minds, our energy systems and our logical thinking capabilities:

1. what success actually is, what it means, what it looks like and what it feels like;

and ...

2. that we want this absolutely, fully and completely.

Don’t think that you can get by without doing this.

It’s absolutely essential.

Let me give you an example.

A grown up and a child encounter a urine soaked alcoholic wreck of a tramp lying in a doorway.

The child goes, “Eeeouwh!! Disgusting!!!”

The adult says, “Now, now, dear Tommy, you mustn’t say that or think it. It isn’t spiritual. You must be compassionate and nice, and you must make allowances for the poor man. It probably wasn’t his fault. There for the grace of God ...”

Tommy goes away very confused as to what is acceptable, desirable, or even good or bad.

The converse applies to make little Tommy’s confusion even worse.

Tommy and dad go by a beautiful expensive car and this very well dressed happy couple comes out.

“Oooh!” exclaims little Tommy. “They are rich and happy! That’s so cool! I want to be like them!”

“No no no!” shouts Daddy. “They’re probably bad and evil. They die young. God hates them. Show offs! Evil people! You’re much better off with nothing, like your father before him and his granddad before him ... at least they were honest, and hard working ...”

See, this stuff is elementary and THIS is the exact form of childhood entrainment we have to reverse.

We have to show and demonstrate to OURSELVES what we want and what we don’t want, as though we were the adult and little Tommy all wrapped into one.

>> Success TV Exercise

Watch any TV show and make a distinction between successful people and unsuccessful people.

Chat shows, for example.

Sit in front of it and when a loser turns up, boo loudly and shout, “Boo! Looser! Boo! Get him off! He/she offends my eye!!”

When a successful person turns up, jump from your sofa and clap, cheer loudly, and really put your heart into it, “Well done! Great success! Great! Congratulations! Well done! Yay!!”

This is a very powerful method to retrain even neurological memories embedded in our very muscles and deeply subconscious indeed to the new order of things, and focussing all of us like one single forward pointing army in the right direction.

>> Cars Exercise

Find a car park without an attendant.

Literally, go up to old, worn out cars, stand in front of them and say, “Nasty. What a sign of failure. Oh no, we don’t want those ...” then turn away.

Find a car that is imbued with an aura of success and gently put your hands on it. Feel it, let the energy and the sight and presence of the car come to you and say to yourself, “That’s the kind of car I want, that’s a sign of success ...”

Now, as you’re driving or walking on your daily rounds, notice the cars going by and comment on them to yourself, “That one’s great, we want one just like that. Good, nasty, nasty, nasty, nasty, that one’s good.”

This is a very simple example how we can keep a focus and start to retrain ourselves all over to recognise what it right and what is wrong, and give the correct signals to the parts of us who really can’t tell a Mercedes from a cat food can so they can learn as well.

Please Note: The cars exercise is a model or a pattern to use for WHATEVER it is you are personally after.

You can play this with a real estate brochure, in a guitar showroom, in a furniture warehouse, even in a bar or on a beach with the resident people, their body shapes, their states and attitudes, and of course, in the cinema and in front of the TV.

It is extraordinary how this improves your focus and clarity and really guides you straight up for success.

Dealing With Criticism

If you want to be successful, you need to deal with criticism correctly.

Taking “negative comments to heart” is a sure fire way of not only sinking into depression, but also starting to doubt yourself and your abilities and intentions, and if you want to build an empire, you simply cannot afford doubts.

Imagine.

You are leading an army, and you sit on the top of a hill and dither as to whether you should attack or run away whilst you’re wallowing in self doubt.

With the choices or decision to either attack or run away, you have at least a 50% chance of success.

If you just sit there and dither, you have a smooth, full on, 100% of FAILURE guaranteed.

Now mostly people make a distinction between “internal criticism”, i.e. how you berate yourself and call yourself a fool inside your own head, and “external criticism”, i.e. how your boyfriend, wife, boss or editor berates you and calls you a fool from the outside.

But actually, it doesn’t matter at all who does the berating, the “criticising”, the undermining.

We need to learn to ignore that completely and remain always focussed on our strengths, on our successes, and on our targets and aims.

Golden Horses & Crocodiles

As I mentioned earlier, on our success farm we want to breed success, not failure. So we don’t keep crocodiles around, but instead, we farm our beautiful golden horses who will pull our incarnation at ever gathering speed, the more of them we have to lend their strength to the endeavour.

A criticism, or pointing out to you how you have “failed” to do this or that, or how you have done this or that “wrong” or how this or that “isn’t good enough” is simply a crocodile.

You put those far, far away into a swamp where they can snap at each other; we don’t want or need them anywhere near our success farm. They’ll bite the legs of our golden horses, disable them and then eat them up altogether, and where will we be then?

For your entire life, “they” have told you that you have to listen carefully to criticism, that you have to take note, take it to heart, somehow learn from the nasty feelings and depressing and angry states these produce and then “do better” somehow.

Well, I’m going to give you official permission right now to stop that nonsense and ignore criticism altogether.

We don’t learn from it, it sucks, it makes us angry, sad and tired, robs us of energy and causes endless conflict as we try to please everyone all of the time.

• The only thing we can really learn from is what works and what doesn’t; what serves our aims and what doesn’t, and all this criticising has to stop.

The first place to start is right with you, and your own thoughts about yourself and your actions.

>> Exercise – Golden Horses

Let’s make a quick list of your “Golden Horses” and bring it out into the open.

What are your strengths, your successes, what you are good at?

Write it down on a piece of paper, right now.

As you keep writing down your “Golden Horses”, and warnings are coming in how you are deluding yourself, how that’s not really true, how there are counter examples where you actually weren’t this or that, or didn’t this or that in the past, dismiss these immediately and completely and keep focussed on that strength, success, skill, talent until it is all which remains, clear and powerfully.

Read through the list again, and once more, remove attention from Crocodile thoughts and focus only on the Golden Horses until they are ALL THERE IS.

It’s simple and magical; that which you give attention, grows; that which you ignore, withers and dies away.

Now, we are NOT going to make a list of your crocodiles. This would only feed them, bring them more strongly into being and we do NOT WANT THAT, we want a clear, forward momentum of getting better, and ever better still.

So instead, I’d like you to consider what other Golden Horses you might like to call in, buy in, develop, breed yourself to make your success farm even better than it already is.

Here’s an example:

My Golden Horses

• Great public speaker
• Wonderful speaking voice
• Immense dedication to what I do
• Integrity
• Drive and energy
• Very creative
• Visionary
• Extremely capable with communication and words
• Delight in exploration and innovation
• Practical and focussed.

Hey! Now that sounds like an interesting person who could be very, very successful, doesn’t it?

I’m impressed myself and this has made me smile. Which is a good thing, and a state from which my work and my play flow faster, more freely, without stress and contortions, and I really do my best work from here.

Now, as to some Golden Horses I might like to acquire now or in the future, which would make me EVEN MORE SUCCESSFUL:

• Keen business sense
• Amazing grasp of money and finances
• Tremendous networking abilities
• Great inspiration to others and myself
• 7^th Sense for possible dangers
• Seeing opportunities and acting on them immediately
• Ability to enjoy everything I do.

 
Now, let’s make your lists, right here and right away.

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So what do we have now?

A person who is deluded or big headed?

No, not at all! What we have is the beginning of a really POSITIVE, rock solid success consciousness that evolves in the right direction, and even right from the start, is IMMUNE to outside agents trying to unbalance and destroy it.

A Note. Alright, so I’m not a hallelujah preacher who doesn’t know full well that we get rainy days, doubty nights and moments where it all falls to pieces.

Sure we do. We wouldn’t, if we weren’t human.

This is not about being ALWAYS and all the time on top of the world; this is far more about HOLDING A FOCUS and finding something that you can RETURN TO, time and time again, to stabilise your unfolding incarnation and build your empire.

There’ll be setbacks, accidents, all sorts of things; shit happens, as they say.

But if we simply go back to the basic principle of really farming our golden horses and putting the crocodiles where they belong, focus entirely on what we want and how we want to make it EVEN BETTER STILL, it doesn’t matter if there’s the odd storm cloud or even hurricane.

As soon as it’s over, we’re right back on track again – and THAT is exactly how we conduct a successful life in all ways.