The original MindMillion book 2005 by Silvia Hartmann - Part 2

Stepping Into Being A Real Rich

Phase 2

Stepping Into Being A Real Rich

Now that we are not so stressed any longer, we need to tackle the No. 2 main reason for people tying themselves into mental knots over making excellent business decisions – namely conflicts.

This is also known as self sabotage and that’s when we have a situation where we become our own worst enemies.

Sometimes we seem to destroy with the left hand what the right has just build up; oftentimes we get stalemated and other times, we are just pulling ourselves to pieces for the conflicts inside.

That has got to stop if we want to become really proactive and become single minded about goals and plans we will execute with “unstoppable volition”.

What Does It Mean To Be A Rich?

The very idea of wanting to be a rich is laden with conflicts and all sorts of societal entrainments to stop people from achieving this.

Women have particular problems with this because they really don’t have any role models for being a rich in your own right (even Cleopatra was only there because she was someone’s daughter!), and a lot of the old wives tails are specifically designed to run counter to women’s other entrainments of being nice, helpful and gentle.

>> Exercise – The Rich You Choose To Be

Here is a really interesting, fun and easy exercise to help you change your mind in a whole new way about what it means to be a rich.

Muppets and the poor make a big deal of how awful it is to be rich. That’s sour grapes of course but it’s a huge, huge millennia old MOUNTAIN of sour grapes that has soured not just our lives, believe you me! Here’s some common tails we need to dock inside our own systems:

rich = evil poor = good

rich = God hates you poor = God loves you

rich = greedy poor = generous

rich = sick poor = healthy

rich = nasty poor = friendly

rich = arrogant poor = humble

rich = family hates you poor = happy family

rich = power freak poor = nice person

rich = cold hearted poor = loving

rich = stingy poor = generous

rich = lazy poor = hard working

rich = criminal poor = honest

rich = wasteful poor = thrifty

There are more – I’m sure you have ideas of your own according to the usual common ideas.

Now, this is what you need to do.

1. Get a piece of paper and write down, nice and carefully and keeping in the lines, your own rich = ? and poor =? ideas.

2. When you have got them all, take a pair of scissors and carefully cut out the statements so there’s one each on each piece of paper.

3. Now, you take the scissors one more time, and you cut straight through the equivalency sign = .

4. Now, you pick out all the qualities you like and put them together with rich = , making new pairings OF YOUR OWN CHOICE. After all, YOU are a rich and YOU get to decide what this particular rich is going to be like. Use glue or tape to affix the new combinations in a scrapbook, a diary, or a new piece of paper which you will hang somewhere where you can see it and smile about it on a daily basis.

5. Finally, you get yourself an ashtray or a pot from the kitchen and you put one by one all the poors and all the unwanted qualities on their bits of paper that are left, set fire to them and watch them burn away with pleasure.

We want NOTHING to do with any of that.

We are riches who are humble, intelligent, articulate, artistic, sensible, loving and we are GOING TO MAKE A TREMENDOUS CONTRIBUTION through our work to not just ourselves, but humanity at large.

And THAT is a fact.

The Result Is The Empire

What do real riches do?

We are doing a good job here of wiping away old entrainments which cause totally unnecessary contortions.

And we are stepping into our real roles as being the riches, and as we’ve discussed earlier, riches do things differently to muppets and poors, and for good reason.

Remember we said that a real rich is building an empire.

A real rich isn’t a just a singer – but a singer who runs their own studio, record label, has other singers working for them, may teach about singing as a part of their empire.

They may start out by “just singing” but just singing isn’t the end result.

The empire is the end result.

It follows that a rich is motivated differently in so far that they do not adhere to the usual consumer pressures.

For example, if a rich is faced with the decision of spending money on a new ornament (which might mightily impress the neighbours!) or on a new tool for their work (which won’t even be visible to anyone!), they will choose the tool.

The empire is simply FAR MORE IMPORTANT than what the neighbours think.

Likewise, I’m sure you have heard of immigrant families who sleep in the garage of their first shop on the floor, subletting their nice council house to others who are not engaged in the act of empire building, so that they can afford a SECOND SHOP for their already unfolding empire.

That’s a classic example of people who are determined to build an empire and don’t give a damn about little inconveniences such as not having running hot or cold water because they KNOW that they are working towards a future where they won’t just be having running hot and cold water – but whole swimming pools full of it.

All paid for, all earned, and simply as a SIDE EFFECT of the tremendous rewards successful empire builders get for their troubles.

Many young riches unfortunately get stuck because they measure their success on the wrong scale.

They look at the muppet scale of nice cars, big holidays and new kitchens every few months as PROOF OF SUCCESS and of course, they don’t have any of those things because to a rich, they’re not important or relevant.

Young riches tend to have, just like the immigrant families, substandard accommodation – but within that, you will find state of the art computer equipment, for example, or a super modern sound studio that cost the Earth.

Of course.

Their priorities are different and these things that would make no sense to the average muppet who derives their self esteem from CONSUMER GOODS are not on their radar.

Where the young riches really lose the plot is when they put themselves under pressure to be BOTH a good muppet AND a good empire builder – frankly, you can’t have both, especially at the beginning, when it’s still an uphill battle and resources are scarce.

On top of that, young riches are often put under immense pressure by muppety relatives and sometimes sadly even spouses who keep saying to them, “Well you can’t be successful in what you’re doing BECAUSE YOU DON’T HAVE A MERCEDES TO SHOW FOR IT.”

I got that from my then spouse and my parents and parents in law for YEARS – whilst I was working all hours God sends on building my empire from the ground up, learning, writing, studying, making first experiments that often failed.

I am absolutely convinced that it would have NEVER taken me as long as it did in the end to get where I am today if I had had just ONE SINGLE PERSON who understood me, believed in me, trusted in me and supported my attempts at empire building back then.

The fact is that you get one empire builder for a thousand muppets and so it’s not their fault that they totally don’t understand us, don’t understand what drives us or how we work, or even WHAT WE NEED in the way of encouragement at the beginning.

We are trying to do the most difficult thing known to mankind – and to womankind, actually entirely unknown in all of Earth’s long history, namely to build your own business from scratch, as a single individual, without a big daddy with a check book and all the business connections behind you to help you out.

So what is truly essential is that the one person who REALLY matters is 100% behind you – yes, and that would be YOU.

• We must get rid of our doubts and become our own wives, for the want of a better metaphor, who believe in us, support us, make sure we don’t give up or waver when the going gets tough.

For us, this isn’t a luxury or being self indulgent.

It is absolutely essential so that we may succeed triumphantly in the end.

And so we get to sing, “I did it my way ...” :-)

>> Exercise: Powerful Moral Support

You really need to do this exercise. Just once.

To prove that you believe in you.

By all means, use the stress reduction technique from Phase 1 to help you be clear, congruent and confident as you write a letter to you in which you declare your admiration, your unbound trust and confidence IN YOU.

As an example, here is mine.

Dear Silvia,

I wanted to tell you that I trust you, and I believe in you.

You are a good person, an honest person and you work hard. No-one knows just how hard you have tried to do the best you possibly can, but I do.

I know that you have unexplored talents and far more strength than you give yourself credit for, and I KNOW that you can get what you want.

I want to tell you to REALLY GO FOR IT. Don’t ever be discouraged by failure or setbacks, because you’ll be standing in the end, I know you will.

I am very proud of you and what you have achieved so far. Now, things will go from better to fantastic and I can’t wait to see all your future successes!

I’ll be there to cheer you on!

You have my personal support in all ways, and my entire admiration,

Yours sincerely and with love,

Silvia

Write your letter, as best you can.

Put it in an envelope, send it to yourself in the mail.

DO THIS FOR YOURSELF AS PROOF FOR REAL.

When you get it, open it and read it. Keep it close by and read it every day and until just thinking about it is enough.

It is a simple gesture of love and support from ourselves to ourselves that needs to be made. People sometimes wait for a lifetime for someone ELSE to say such things to them, and then they still don’t believe them.

These things have got to come from us, firstly and foremostly.

Then they come from others too as like attracts like and our whole attitude has shifted.