Reality Divergence

Reality Divergence creates a tension between reality absolute and the person that cannot be resolved and that becomes worse, the longer it goes on.

Eventually, something has to give, creating a cataclysm of some kind to bring a person back to reality absolute.

When we correct a reality divergence, there is an instant sense of relief and more energy is available that is no longer tied up in the struggle against reality absolute, which is unwinnable.

The most essential reality divergence to correct is our self concepts.

From Star Matrix.

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Reality divergence is a term coined by Silvia Hartmann to describe the discrepancy between an individual's perception of reality and actual reality. The greater this discrepancy, the more tension and "chaos" it creates in a person's life, impacting their choices, relationships, and overall well-being.

Hartmann uses the analogy of a tightening rubber band to illustrate the effects of reality divergence. As the gap between perceived reality and actual reality widens, the tension increases, leading to stress, erroneous decisions, and a sense of helplessness. This tension eventually reaches a breaking point, causing the rubber band to "snap". This snapping can occur through conscious efforts to realign with reality or through a forced reckoning via negative experiences such as accidents, illnesses, or other traumatic events.

Hartmann provides numerous examples of reality divergence from her own life and observations:

• Self-perception: Hartmann recounts her experience as an 18-year-old, believing she was "hideously ugly" despite being objectively attractive. This internalized belief led to self-sabotaging behaviors and a diminished sense of self-worth.
• External Beliefs: Hartmann initially believed that scientists were inherently honorable truth-seekers. However, a personal experience involving fabricated research data shattered this belief, causing a shift in her worldview and leading her to become a "conspiracy realist."
• Relationships: Hartmann discusses the common belief of being "unlovable," which can lead to relationship sabotage and difficulty forming healthy connections. She also shares an anecdote about her partner's belief that he has a "horrible voice," which prevents him from enjoying singing and exploring the full potential of his voice.

Hartmann emphasizes that identifying and addressing reality divergences is crucial for improving well-being and living a more fulfilling life. She advocates for conscious efforts to challenge distorted beliefs through techniques like "Star Matrix," which uses counter-evidence to bring about a shift in perception. She also encourages vocalizing these beliefs, without shame, as a step towards self-reflection and potential correction.

Ultimately, the concept of reality divergence serves as a call to question our deeply held beliefs and to be open to the possibility that they may be based on a distorted perception of reality. By becoming aware of our own reality divergences and taking steps to address them, we can reduce unnecessary suffering, improve our decision-making, and move towards a more joyful and authentic way of being in the world.

 

 

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