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5 Tips On How To Ask A Guy Out

5 Tips On How To Ask A Guy Out

Wondering how to ask a guy out? Not sure what to say?

Asking someone out used to be considered “the man’s job” but these days anyone can now take the initiative, meaning you no longer have to wait to be approached.

Alex Kent, author of “The Energy of Attraction” and creator of the Energy Dating Coach program explains his top five tips for taking back the power and being proactive on choosing who you want in your life.

#1 Know that you can


Population Growth: New World, New You

In ye old days, it was considered unladylike for you to make the first move and ask a guy out, but now that thinking is as out-of-date as not getting to vote.

Human beings have evolved to live in small groups, which is why we naturally find it very risky to connect with others.

Yet the world we now live in is very different. We’ve got a rapidly expanding population of eight billion highly connected people, effective birth control methods and therefore need to adapt to the world around us, not some 18th century fantasy.

Asking someone out can be an absolutely daunting process - and that’s true for both men and women. Yet, through breakthroughs in our understanding of Modern Energy we can rewire ourselves to keep up with 21st century life.

It can take a lot of courage to ask a man out, but the rewards are totally worth it. You get to be the one who picks for a change.

That’s why my first tip is knowing that you can AND should ask a guy out!

#2 Warm up your social muscles first


Talk to everyone

The more social you’ve been through the day already, the easier you’ll find it to talk to him when it counts.

In the same way that sports professionals wouldn’t just jump out of bed and be at their peak performance, you should be “warming up” to be at your best and most confident.

Each time we have a meaningful interaction with another human being we get a little bit of an energy boost from it. That’s accumulates throughout your day, so make it your goal to chat to anyone and everyone.

When buying a coffee, ask how your server’s day has been.

See someone with a bit of style, stop them and say “Hey, I like your style - you look nice. Anyway, you have a nice day.”

When queuing, chat with those around you about anything and everything - the weather, the place you’re in, even the queue itself.

Oh and don’t think you should just be chatting to a very tight demographic, ie Male, age X to Y, skin colour Z, estimated wealth T, etc.

As social human beings, we get that energy boost from anyone we share a moment with.

#3 Do it because you want to


Why do you want the cake?

Take a piece of cake.

Do you want to eat the cake because you want to - or do you want it because you're afraid of someone else eating the cake, or the cake going away and there not being a better cake just round the corner?

We all have our energy levels that go up and down throughout the day. When we are in energy deficit, we’re socially anxious, desperate, make bad short-term decisions, think negative thoughts and often only take action to avoid a negative consequence.

When we are in energy surplus, we have positive thoughts, start to make longer term plans, work towards achieving goals - and take action because that’s what we really want.

Talking to a guy whilst being in energy surplus is much more attractive. He’ll be able to tell in your eyes, your posture, your smile and how you talk that you’re confident and someone he feels comfortable getting to know better.

  • There are lots of ways of increasing your energy levels, including being social throughout the day. See my “Energy of Attraction” book for almost magical methods that are super easy to learn.

#4 Avoid obsessions


Avoid obsessions

It’s easy to think and feel that one particular person is the answer to your prayers, like only he has the key to unlocking your happiness.

Yet this is a very unattractive place to talk to anyone and it puts a lot of pressure on his shoulders to fit the mould you’ve made for him.

This is likely to push him away.

Never put any man on a pedestal, otherwise you’ll raise them up so much that you’ll in turn become worthless to them. Or worse, someone to be used and cast aside.

You’re at your most attractive if he has to work to win your affections.

Yes you can pay him a compliment that is true and genuine to him (otherwise don’t say it!) but your energy should be such that there are a number of other guys out there that are equally worth your valuable attention.

#5 Tell him what you want


Tell him what you want

If you find him attractive and want to ask him out then just do it!

Yes, find out a bit about him first - make assumptions rather than questions - but if he does pass your tests and is worthy of you then make your intentions clear ASAP, such as:

“I like you, you like me. Would you like to go for a coffee sometime?”

Above all else, avoid being vague.

You’ve probably had this the other way round, when a guy is having a nice friendly conversation with you and you have absolutely no idea that he wants to ask you out but is terrified to ask.

Being honest right from the start is how you avoid the dreaded friendzone.

When asking a guy out goes well, then that’s great - enjoy it!

But either way, you get a lot of respect from guys from having the courage to ask. They know how terrifying it can be!

And if you’re just too terrified…

Then you’ve got plenty of other options including:

  • Setting up your own “meet cutes” where he approaches you.
  • Practise being approachable so guys come over to you.
  • Reading my book “The Energy of Attraction” - and importantly - practising the exercises. Get your friends involved - it’s more fun!
  • Taking on an Energy Dating Coach to diagnose what’s gone wrong in the past and push you to become a new you!

How To Buy “The Energy of Attraction” by Alex Kent


The Energy of Attraction
by Alex Kent

“The Energy of Attraction” book by Alex Kent is your comprehensive yet easy-to-read guide to “Social, Romantic and Sexual” abundance. You’ll find it’s packed from cover-to-cover with tips, techniques and exercises for attracting beautiful people into your life.

You can buy the book from your favourite online shop, however if you purchase it direct from the publisher then you’ll get three months free access to:

  • Online support group.
  • Watch an hour long presentation by Alex Kent on “The Energy of Attraction”.
  • Access to the GoE Digital Library containing many ebooks, videos and audio files on Modern Energy.

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Training courses and events with Alex Kent:
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GoE Modern Energy Trainers Course 2019 with Silvia Hartmann & Alex Kent
3-9 June 2019 - The Cavendish Hotel, 38 Grand Parade, Eastbourne, England, BN21 4DH
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GoE Energy Conference 2018 with Guild of Energists (GoE), Silvia Hartmann & Alex Kent
10-11 November 2018 - The View Hotel, Eastbourne, England, BN21 4DN
Latest news & articles by Alex Kent:
GoE Trainer Training 2018 Report

GoE Trainer Training 2018 Report

Posted Jun 21, 2018
Please join us in giving a MASSIVE +10 congratulations to all the trainers who attended the sold-out GoE Trainer Training 2018! If you were wondering what happens at a seven day intensive GoE...
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Happy Unicorn! - EMO Energy In Motion Case Story

Happy Unicorn! - EMO Energy In Motion Case Story

Posted Apr 27, 2018
"Let's all be happy unicorns!" - GoE CEO Alex Kent tells his story of using EMO Energy In Motion to help his daughter overcome sadness relating to her day at school she did not want to talk...
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Energy Dating & Modern Energy Tapping

Energy Dating & Modern Energy Tapping

Posted Jan 24, 2018
Looking to find a new partner this year? Energy Dating expert Alex Kent and author of The Energy of Attraction , talks about Modern Energy Tapping , the new energy tapping method developed by GoE...
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We Are The Guild of Energists! - Review 2017

We Are The Guild of Energists! - Review 2017

Posted Dec 30, 2017
Alex Kent, CEO of the Guild of Energists (GoE) reflects on how our not-for-profit modern energy organisation has grown and flourished in 2017. The GoE is now active in over seventy countries,...
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Am I Too Old To Date? Online Test

Am I Too Old To Date? Online Test

Posted Nov 23, 2017
Am I too old to start dating? Is dating for me? Am I too old to flirt? These are common questions people ask when they are considering purchasing " The Energy of Attraction " by Alex Kent, or...
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The Energy of Attraction by Alex Kent - Out Now!

The Energy of Attraction by Alex Kent - Out Now!

Posted Nov 22, 2017
We're excited to report that even though " The Energy of Attraction " book has only been out a week, already we're starting to hear that readers are meeting new people, exchanging phone numbers...
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5 Tips On How To Ask A Guy Out

5 Tips On How To Ask A Guy Out

Posted Nov 20, 2017
Wondering how to ask a guy out? Not sure what to say? Asking someone out used to be considered “the man’s job” but these days anyone can now take the initiative, meaning you no longer have to...
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What is the Energy of Attraction?

What is the Energy of Attraction?

Posted Nov 14, 2017
Alex Kent, CEO of the Guild of Energists , has written a must-have book called “The Energy of Attraction” which explores the topic of how we can attract beautiful lovers, positive friends and...
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Solutions to 21st Century Dating Problems

Solutions to 21st Century Dating Problems

Posted Nov 13, 2017
Alex Kent , author of The Energy of Attraction book and developer of the GoE Energy Dating Coach course was a keynote presenter at the GoE Energy Conference 2017. This humorous video guide to 21st...
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The Energy of Attraction - MODERN Energy Book from Alex Kent

The Energy of Attraction - MODERN Energy Book from Alex Kent

Posted Oct 16, 2017
The Energy of Attraction , written by Guild of Energists CEO Alex Kent, is the complete guide for men and women seeking social, romantic and sexual abundance through the practise of Modern Energy...
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🆕 GoE Energy Dating - Training Course and Coaching Sessions Now Available!

🆕 GoE Energy Dating - Training Course and Coaching Sessions Now Available!

Posted Jan 1, 2001
Alex Kent , author of " The Energy of Attraction " and CEO of the Guild of Energists, has just released a new course called GoE Energy Dating. The launch took place at this years Modern Energy...
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Alex Kenthas the following products in the store:
Big Ted A4 Magic Tapping Sheet

Big Ted A4 Magic Tapping Sheet

Posted Dec 8, 2017
If you love BIG Ted's Guide to Tapping , you'll love our new A4 Big Ted 'Magic Tapping' sheets.  These high quality, double-sided, laminated, GoE Magic Tapping  Sheets,  make for a perfect...
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BIG Ted

BIG Ted's Guide to Tapping

Posted Nov 12, 2013
Turn negative emotions into positive ones with BIG Ted's Guide to Tapping. Join the loveable BIG Ted as he guides you and your child through the near miraculous energy tapping.
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The Energy of Attraction by Alex Kent

The Energy of Attraction by Alex Kent

Posted Oct 9, 2017
The Energy of Attraction  is the complete guide for men and women seeking social, romantic and sexual abundance through the practise of Modern Energy based techniques. Meeting, dating and...
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Alex Kent has kindly contributed the following titles to the 🏫 GoE Library:
DragonRising Radio Show

DragonRising Radio Show

Posted Jan 8, 2018
DragonRising is the publishing arm of the Guild of Energists and they've released some of the most outstanding and innovative audio products available, including: HypnoSolutions, HypnoDreams,...
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GoE2014 - P08 - Internet for Energists with Alex Kent

GoE2014 - P08 - Internet for Energists with Alex Kent

Posted Nov 23, 2017
This workshop is about top tips for energists who want to harness the power of the internet for self-promotion, productivity and creativity. As well as offering a forum to talk about what has...
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GoE2017 - P08 - The Energy of Attraction with Alex Kent

GoE2017 - P08 - The Energy of Attraction with Alex Kent

Posted Nov 17, 2017
This is a talk on the energy interplay between couples in this most primal and intimate of dances. Attraction is a game for two, yet the journey between first contact and sex is often not the...
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The Energist - Vol 2015.2.1 - New Beginnings

The Energist - Vol 2015.2.1 - New Beginnings

Posted Jan 21, 2015
Winter 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
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The Energist - Vol 2015.2.2 - Project Sanctuary

The Energist - Vol 2015.2.2 - Project Sanctuary

Posted Apr 9, 2015
Spring 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
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The Energist - Vol 2015.2.4 - Harvesting From The Tree of Lights

The Energist - Vol 2015.2.4 - Harvesting From The Tree of Lights

Posted Sep 1, 2015
Autumn 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
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The Energist - Vol 2016.3.1 - Energy EFT Foundation

The Energist - Vol 2016.3.1 - Energy EFT Foundation

Posted Mar 19, 2016
Spring 2016 edition of The Energist magazine.
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The Energist - Vol 2017.4.1 - The Best Year Ever!

The Energist - Vol 2017.4.1 - The Best Year Ever!

Posted Feb 1, 2017
Spring 2017 edition of The Energist magazine.
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The Energist - Vol 2017.4.2 - The Energy of Learning

The Energist - Vol 2017.4.2 - The Energy of Learning

Posted May 26, 2017
Summer 2017 edition of The Energist magazine.
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The Energist - Vol 2018.5.1 - The Power of the Positives

The Energist - Vol 2018.5.1 - The Power of the Positives

Posted Feb 20, 2018
Winter 2018 edition of The Energist magazine. Available to read online on smart phones, tablets and in browsers, plus also the option to download as an Adobe PDF file for printing out at home or...
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