Victim, Survivor & How The Truth Can Set Us FreeBeing forced to accept the mantle of "the victim" which becomes the "everlasting survivor" even when a person doesn't feel like a victim before one is allowed to heal is extremely counterproductive and can block healing, change and evolution from happening at all - as is the ongoing exhortation that a person must somehow accept that "It's not your fault!" when in fact they feel with every fibre of their being that is IS THEIR fault. In this article, Silvia Hartmann makes the case for simply working with what a person really feels - the intrapersonal truth - rather than to add insult to injury and telling a person what they should be feeling, or what they're feeling is wrong and it's their fault that they're not healing.
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Victim, Survivor& How The Truth Can Set Us FreeSilvia Hartmann The Idea Of Victimhood & Being A Victim - Victims -> Participants - The Everlasting Survivor? - "It Wasn't Your Fault!" - A Path To Absolution
The Idea Of Victimhood & Being A Victim I have always had a huge problem with the idea of victimhood, of being a victim.
Victim -> Participant
We can absolutely connect with and take down THEIR UNIQUE POINT OF VIEW of the situation in which both were participants. We can unfold step by step WHAT REALLY HAPPENED *****INTRAPERSONALLY***** - honestly, correctly, logically. And we can work with THAT intrapersonal reality to bring about changes. It is a simple fact of life that when we work with what there really is, as opposed to working with what we want there to be, hope there should be, expect that there must be, or hallucinate that there ought to be, we end up with real changes, instead of a total mess. ALL the participants - and this now includes the counsellor as well! - get to MOVE ON and evolve. That's worth having. It's simple. It's clean. It's honest. It is a HUGE relief for all concerned as they can stop trying to squash themselves into some arbitrary role like trying to get into a suit of armour made from spiky metal that is ten sizes too small, and instead, unfold and learn what REALLY HAPPENED THERE, who we really are, each one of the participants, when all is said and done. When we make this shift, we might even find out how to prevent similar situations from happening in future, and the endless seeming feedback loop between new generations of victims and perps can finally be broken. We might learn something about how to treat ourselves and others differently, how to treat ourselves right. And that would be ... progress, at least in my books.
As long as a person continues to define themselves and all they are as a "... SURVIVOR" we can actually simply say, that this person has NOT finished with these events, is NOT clear of them, has NOT reached an evolution and is still "living there". It is the moment when the survivor of a plane crash ceases to call themselves a plane crash victim, or a plane crash survivor, in words, in their thoughts, how they feel in their bodies, and start calling themselves just a man or a woman instead, perhaps a Republican or an artist, a mother or a CEO, that we know the person is finally healed and back in the now with us, rather than still trapped by the events of the past. I personally do not encourage anyone to call themselves a survivor. There may be merit in dealing with the fact that something was indeed, survived, but that should be clearly over with as soon as possible and should never become a life choice, an identity forming role or anything of that nature. A person who is still in that survivor mode is in limbo and needs to evolve out of that limbo, in their own time. To tell someone that "they will be a survivor forever" is nothing but handing down a cruel sentence of a future devoid of healing, of change, of learning, and of evolution. That is the same as telling someone that they will be a victim forever, or even a perpetrator forever - it denies the forward movement of evolution for that one person that is possible, that is attainable and most of all, SHOULD BE SOUGHT WITH ALL SPEED so that a person can become a person once more, and make a life that is worth something, to them, and to society at large.
Further from the whole victim/survivor confusion, one of the worst and most harmful brainwashing entrainments in modern psychology is the whole dea of trying to get the client to accept somehow that, "It wasn't your fault!" This is so unfair, so deeply disturbing to have a person in emotional pain after what they have been through, and then the person who is supposed to help them, is trying to convince them that what they are feeling is WRONG, and they shouldn't be feeling it, and that until and unless they realise just how wrong their ideas and feelings are, no healing will be rationed out. It's truly appalling. If someone feels, "It is my fault that this terrible thing happened ...." then WHY can't we just work with what a person feels instead of trying to talk them out of it and make them somehow (and on top of everything else) think they were wrong to feel whatever it is they're feeling in the first place? Also, we are now in a position where a person who feels strongly that it WAS their fault gets into a stalemate with those who try to treat them. There is no forward movement. Everything STOPS. And that is possibly the greatest catastrophe of the "It wasn't your fault!" entrainment. And he is STILL in pain - in fact, in the same pain he has been in all along.
From there we can finally plot a path to absolution. In fact, that is the ONLY place we can start if we want to evolve the problem, or help the gentleman. Now it is true that in the past, psychologists and counsellors didn't have any methods to change a person's feelings directly. That is no longer the case today, and we can work directly with the feelings without the labels of guilt and shame, without having to hide away from the intrapersonal truth, whatever it may be. In that way, there is a chance that finally, the victims will be heard and can find a way to heal; the perpetrators may be healed and cease to pose a threat to others in the future, and the helper can come away with the knowledge that they have done something very brave and so unusual, which is to face another person's intrapersonal reality without feeling the need to distort it or have it be something that it never was, and assist in their unique personal path and evolution instead.
The Idea Of Victimhood & Being A Victim - Victims -> Participants - The Everlasting Survivor? - "It Wasn't Your Fault!" - A Path To Absolution Victim, Survivor & How The Truth Can Set Us Free (c) Hartmann 2009. All Rights Reserved.
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Posted Nov 3, 2016
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Posted Mar 23, 2010
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Posted Mar 21, 2010
Magic Dancing: Energy Dancing with The Sacred Horse.
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Infinite Creativity: The Project Sanctuary Story
Posted Jun 17, 2014
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Modern Energy Tapping by Silvia Hartmann
Posted Jan 18, 2018
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Posted Oct 5, 2021
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Posted Feb 1, 2018
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Posted May 5, 2023
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Posted Dec 31, 2017
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Trillion Dollar Stress Solution
Posted Oct 3, 2017
The Trillion Dollar Stress Solution: MODERN Stress Management - From Stress To Success.
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Posted Oct 2, 2018
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80+ NLP Neurolinguistic Programming Articles With Energy In Mind
Posted Apr 24, 2015
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Posted Mar 13, 2023
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Posted Jan 8, 2018
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Posted Jan 23, 2017
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Easy EFT, Adventures in EFT, The Advanced Patterns of EFT and EFT & NLP -...
Posted Oct 22, 2019
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Posted Jan 23, 2017
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Posted Jan 19, 2017
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Posted Feb 5, 2020
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Posted Nov 26, 2019
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Posted Mar 8, 2017
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Posted Feb 3, 2021
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Posted Nov 3, 2022
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Posted Feb 23, 2021
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Posted Nov 10, 2013
Silvia Hartmann's keynote presentation on Positive Energy to the delegates of the GoE Energy Conference 2013
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Posted Nov 10, 2013
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Posted Nov 1, 2014
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Posted May 4, 2017
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Posted Nov 1, 2016
Silvia Hartmann's keynote presentation from the GoE Energy Conference 2016, where she unveiled the "Big E" and we officially became the Guild of Energists.
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Posted Apr 6, 2018
One hour video presentation by Ilka Wandel on Silvia Hartmann's "Energy Constellations". Also included is Silvia Hartmann's Energy Constellations Adobe PDF file to download and study at home.
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GoE2016 - P20 - Supermind: A New Intelligence For Energists?
Posted Oct 12, 2018
For the last 23 years, brave souls have been venturing into Project Sanctuary, the original universal sandbox designed to learn the mysterious, fascinating and enchanting ways of the energy mind....
GoE2017 - P01 - The Love Challenge with Silvia Hartmann
Posted Jan 20, 2018
GoE President Silvia Hartmann's keynote presentation for the GoE Energy Conference 2017.
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Posted Nov 25, 2021
In this opening plenary speech to the conference, GoE President Silvia Hartmann presents on the The Miracle Expansion - a new definition, new concepts, new worlds and new possibilities!
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Posted Nov 25, 2021
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Posted Nov 25, 2021
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Posted Nov 13, 2024
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Posted Nov 13, 2024
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Posted Nov 13, 2024
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Posted Nov 13, 2024
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How A Child Sex Abuse Survivor Healed 1 MILLION Hearts - Video with Silvia...
Posted Oct 9, 2018
The extrordinary story how a distraught child sex abuse survivor triggered a chain of events that has helped to heal a million broken hearts - so far! - Video with GoE president Silvia Hartmann
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Posted Jul 8, 2024
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The Madness Of The Western World - An Exponential Curve Of Insanity...
MindMillion 2005 by Silvia Hartmann - Complete Text
Posted Feb 10, 2017
MindMillion by Silvia Hartmann - Complete book has been added to the Library.
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MindMillion Articles 2005 - 2012
Posted Jan 22, 2012
MindMillion articles on business success from the energy perspective (pre-Energy EFT/Positive EFT) 2005 - 2012. Includes over seventy articles.
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Posted Apr 15, 2023
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Mirror Charm Sanctuary - Evolving Metaphors Masterclass
Posted Nov 24, 2022
For members of the Guild of Energists, Silvia Hartmann has gifted you a special members-only practitioner master class in evolving metaphors in sanctuary.
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Modern Energy 101 - The Modern Energy Chart In A Nutshell - Video by Silvia...
Posted Oct 23, 2018
Never heard of Modern Energy? Check out this 5 min intro that might just change your life! Here is how to do "emotional wellness" "emotional intelligence" and how to get from stress to success in...
Modern Energy Tapping Presentation with Silvia Hartman
Posted Apr 16, 2018
27 minute video of author Silvia Hartmann presenting on Modern Energy Tapping at the GoE Positive Energy Day which took place at Sedgwick Park UK in 2014.
NLP & Classic EFT Special Report 1999-2009
Posted Feb 25, 2017
Classic EFT & NLP is a special report by Silvia Hartmann for NLP Practitioners on how to use Classic EFT, which covers how to use Classic EFT to enhance NLP abilities in the self; how to use...
Power Affirmations Special Report 2008
Posted Feb 26, 2017
Power Affirmations - 21st Century Magic Spells That Change Reality - 2008 Special Report by Silvia Hartmann, full text.
Project Sanctuary III 1996-2002
Posted Jan 27, 2017
Silvia Hartmann's groundbreaking Project Sanctuary. Third edition 2002, published 2003. Complete text.
Project Sanctuary is a unique set of processes using intention, energy and metaphor,...
Project Sanctuary: First Sanctuary with Silvia Hartmann
Posted Mar 12, 2018
Project Sanctuary is easy, and fun. In this straightforward, friendly 14 minute free meditation, GoE President Silvia Hartmann guides you through the process of setting up a "first Sanctuary". Use...
Sandra Hillawi: Wishing Silvia Hartmann A Fabulous Retirement
Posted Nov 19, 2024
Wishing Silvia Hartmann a fabulous retirement!
Sex In Sanctuary
Posted Jun 19, 2018
Special Report by Silvia Hartmann for all members to read free in the library, however prior knowledge of SuperMind, Infinite Creativity and Project Sanctuary is advised.
Need to read Infinite...
Star Matrix Summit 2020
Posted Feb 18, 2021
We're delighted to make the complete inaugural Star Matrix Summit available to members to enjoy. In this video series, Silvia Hartmann interviews key members on their own personal breakthroughs...
Sunday Live with Silvia Hartmann
Posted Feb 25, 2020
Watch the complete collection of live streams with GoE President Silvia Hartmann including energy exercises and latest news from the GoE.
The Energist - Vol 2014.1.1 - Voyager
Posted Jun 1, 2014
Summer 2014 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2014.1.2 - Conference Special
Posted Oct 1, 2014
Autumn 2014 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2015.2.1 - New Beginnings
Posted Jan 21, 2015
Winter 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2015.2.2 - Project Sanctuary
Posted Apr 9, 2015
Spring 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2015.2.3 - It's OUR Time to Shine
Posted Jul 27, 2015
Summer 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2015.2.4 - Harvesting From The Tree of Lights
Posted Sep 1, 2015
Autumn 2015 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2016.3.1 - Energy EFT Foundation
Posted Mar 19, 2016
Spring 2016 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2017.4.1 - The Best Year Ever!
Posted Feb 1, 2017
Spring 2017 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2017.4.2 - The Energy of Learning
Posted May 26, 2017
Summer 2017 edition of The Energist magazine.
The Energist - Vol 2018.5.1 - The Power of the Positives
Posted Feb 20, 2018
Winter 2018 edition of The Energist magazine.
Available to read online on smart phones, tablets and in browsers, plus also the option to download as an Adobe PDF file for printing out at home or...
The Golden Horse & Other Fairy Tales by Silvia Hartmann
Posted Nov 15, 2022
Created by Master Story Teller Silvia Hartmann For Magical Children Aged 9 - 99, The Golden Horse is an anthology of absolutely original, highly creative stories told in traditional fairy tale...
The Grumble Gnome Fairy Tale by Silvia Hartmann
Posted Dec 23, 2022
A great traditional fairy tale to enjoy for the magical child within, or the magical child in your life in Silvia Hartmann's unique energy writing style.
The Magician by Silvia Hartmann
Posted Jun 1, 2023
The Magician - 28 Lessons In Magic; a novel by Silvia Hartmann.
The Orb of Prosperity by Silvia Hartmann
Posted Feb 9, 2022
This Modern Energy Meditation is for anyone who wants to connect with the energy of prosperity, whatever that means to you.
Inspired during the Energy Show "The Spirit of Prosperity," here is...
The Real Secret How To Become A Millionaire - Video with Silvia Hartmann
Posted Oct 16, 2018
Do you want to be a millionaire? Check out these amazing Top 5 Tips from GoE president Silvia Hartmann
The Star Matrix Story with Silvia Hartmann
Posted Oct 23, 2019
What is Star Matrix? Where did it come from? Why is Star Matrix so important for the people of the 21st Century? Why do we need to escape the brainwashing of the Trauma Trap? What are Star Events,...
Video Clips From - Modern Energy Foundation 1 - Your Happiness Matters:...
Posted Nov 6, 2018
Video clips from Silvia Hartmann's Modern Energy Foundation online course:
Unit 1: Why Your Happiness Matters - An Introduction to Modern Energy
These are made available to you to watch...
Zauberwelt by Silvia Hartmann - Auf Deutsch/German Language Edition 2004
Posted Jan 13, 2017
Zauberwelt is an introduction to the magical world of modern energy. In this charming book, Silvia Hartmann explains in simple words and simple examples how different our world looks when we...
Zauberwelt English Language Edition Translated by Silvia Hartmann 2004
Posted Jan 13, 2017
Zauberwelt is an introduction to the magical world of modern energy. In this charming book which has been translated from the original German language edition, Silvia Hartmann explains in simple...
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